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Pavleen Badhesa (she/her/hers), Low Entropy Volunteer Writer

 

The holiday season is approaching and there is excitement in the air, as many prepare for family functions, community events and winter activities. Amidst all the excitement, the season can be overwhelming for many, including myself. Family obligations can be major contributors to this feeling of being overwhelmed. This magical season allows many of us to spend more time with family. However, this time can also bring pressure, as we try to allocate time for family duties. To best support yourself, implement the five guiding principles below: 

• Ensure your happiness.

 

In any family event or activity, make sure you are going in with a healthy mindset. With all the pressures and obligations ingrained in us to serve others, we tend to forget to check in with ourselves and our own happiness levels. Give yourself a quick break and ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” Whether that be something in your relationship with a family member or a five-minute personal breather, take the time to check in and ensure your happiness is being fulfilled. 

• Participate in what you want.

 

In many family relationships, you may feel you have a duty to participate in activities and/or conversations that you do not particularly enjoy. These unpleasant situations are not necessarily a family obligation. Instead, try to have open discussions about starting traditions that suit you. There are many family activities that are traditional, and some traditions should be kept alive, but also allow yourself to experiment with new ones that you might enjoy more. 

• Allow yourself to rest.

 

Ensure you are taking the time to recharge and rest, as family obligations and events may be draining. I know for myself this is necessary, as I am introverted and need time to charge my social battery. We all love our friends and family, but it is okay to need time away to rest up and bring our best selves back. 

• Try to learn something new. 

 

Use the time with family as an opportunity to learn something new from a loved one! Growing up with our families, we may forget that those in our lives have a plethora of skills and experiences they can share with us, whether it is a recipe you have always enjoyed from family dinner or a card trick your grandpa used to perform for you. Anything small or big has the power to foster connection and allow you to enjoy time with your loved ones. 

• Be present. 

 

Sometimes, when we are running around and trying to get everything done for everyone, we are not actually helping anyone. The core value underlying all family events and get-togethers is being present with each other and connecting. Focus on trying to clear the stresses and worries out of your mind, even if only for five minutes. The clarity will allow you to be present and feel the energy around you, and maybe even see your loved ones in a new way. 

 

Family obligations and duties vary in expectations and delivery for each family. The time spent with your family should spark joy, connection and relaxation. Implementing the five tips above will encourage these results, while allowing you the time to take care of yourself. I hope everyone has an amazing winter season filled with love, connection and hot chocolate!

 

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