Letter from My 80-Year-Old Self

Neema Ejercito (she/her/hers), Low Entropy Volunteer Writer

 

My dearest Neema,

 

So here we are at the age where we wanted to be when we were in our 30s. I remember us telling Mommy whenever we encountered challenges how much we wanted to skip over all of that and just be me now — wise, calm and transcendental, ha! I definitely give less f’s now, but I don’t know if I’d call myself all of those adjectives. I definitely feel a lot achier and slower. I remember when we saw our 80-plus-year-olds then, Tito George and Tita Lory, when we were in our late 40s, after having moved to Vancouver. We were observing them because we wanted to understand our parents more, and we also wanted to see what we would look forward to in our senior years.

 

How we struggled to make sense of our move to Vancouver then. I remember the frustration we felt at things not moving according to our own pace, and the uncertainty of our permanent resident approval and later, our citizenship. I think I’m supposed to give you advice on how we made it this far, but honestly, we’ve always known that there aren’t really any formulas or templates to these things. And like what we’ve discovered when someone needs us, it truly is the time we spend with them that matters the most. Money helps, and talks – I still recall us realizing the double-edged truth to the latter.

 

Let’s see, maybe I can tell you how you and Ron are doing. Before that, let me tell you how you are doing. We are still writing, and I love that that’s exactly what we wanted to be doing in our senior years. Even then, we didn’t believe in retirement. We are writing, getting published and making appearances, but more importantly, we are still teaching. We’ve always liked the flexible schedule, especially now that we can spend time with our grandchildren. So because, I guess, of the success of our writing projects, we are at a place where we can actually dictate when to work and what projects to take — yey! I know we’ve always wondered if we were ever going to get to that point, even being content daydreaming about it because it always seemed out of reach, or more for other people, but never for us. Only “nice to have,” so to speak. 

 

Before getting into the grandkids, we do have a couple of feature films (one animated and one live-action) produced, a couple of chapbooks under our belt and a book series. Prior to Julia Cameron’s passing, she actually coordinated with us so that we could come up with our own version of The Artist’s Way. With her blessing, ours is called The Artist in Me

 

So how are you and Ron? He actually passed on at 70, the year he wished to die. I am constantly thankful that he didn’t have to experience that feeling of being a burden that he so detested. We talk to him every day, rubbing the small jar locket of his ashes on our neck as we do so.

 

We take turns living with the kids these days, so our year is divided into 3 locations. When we are with Joaquin, we help take care of our 3 grandkids: Pharrell, Ember and Dandy, a boy and 2 girls. Yes, he and Kat ended up together, though it wasn’t easy what they went through, but you already knew that. The heartbreak was something we quietly shared with Joaquin, but Ron made it a bit easier by dating you a lot, as we know he loves to do, and without being too obvious, spoiling Joaquin with musical performances together (yes, Joaquin’s violin and Ron’s sax lessons pay off emotionally, mentally and spiritually).

 

Lara has one boy, and because you haven’t met her partner, I won’t spoil it =D (Yes, at our age, we still write personal messages with emojis). She is a mycologist and actually met Paul Stamets before he passed. She actually knows his son (hint, hint).

 

As for Ramon, his babies are his capybaras and his adopted elephant seal at the Vancouver Aquarium. He’s busy in the IT industry helping out start-ups, and is the richest among the 3 kids. And yes, you help him take care of Capy and Bara when you’re at his place.

 

If I may just leave you with a poem we wrote as my last bit of “advice”:

 

May We Always

 

May we always have just enough

Just enough food to savour each bite

Just enough water to find it sweet

Just enough to wear to enjoy the weather

Just enough house to take care of it all

Just enough work to know rest

Just enough rest to be productive

Just enough company to enjoy each moment

Just enough silence to listen

 

To the universe, to ourselves, to each other

 

Just enough noise to enjoy

Just enough peace to act

Just enough to do to remember why

 

Just enough sadness to move past it

Enough anger for injustice to do the right thing

Enough happiness to share it

Enough fear to rise above it

Enough doubt to trust it

 

May we always be enough

Be enough to know our worth

Be enough to go where we’re needed

Be enough not to compare

Be enough to remember we matter, we count, we dare

 

May we make enough count.

 

Be.

 

Enough. 

 

I love you, sweetie.

 

You

 

Note: I have written letters to myself since I came across this task in Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way over 20 years ago. I have since made possibly three-to-four versions of the letter, and even did one where my current self wrote to my eight-year-old self. I find that updating the letter every so often really helps me put in perspective where I currently am and where I am headed.

 

 

Neema Ejercito is a professional writer, director and creative writing mentor. Her 3D edutainment series for beginning readers, AlphaBesties, is showing in YouTube Japan and Prairie Kids. When she’s not writing or mentoring, she manages her household with her very supportive husband and three children.

 

A Letter to Myself

Bethany Howell (she/her/hers), Low Entropy Volunteer Writer

 

It’s been quite the year, hasn’t it?

 

You laughed until your ribs hurt and cried through so many cold nights.

You survived even on the days where you broke and you grew from that fight.

 

That thing you’ve been waiting for happened and that great fear came true.

That event didn’t matter as much as you thought and now you are able to see things that do.

 

You lost so much and yet were always able to keep your grasp.

You were better than you expected to be and, yes, those punches hit harder than they should have.

 

You rediscovered yourself and relearned things you thought you knew.

All this to say, my dear, you did well and I am so proud of you.

 

 

My name is Bethany Howell and I am a third-year university student majoring in psychology and minoring in family and child studies. I have a passion for writing and mental health, and my ultimate goal since age 13 has been to make a difference in the world through helping others, which is how I ended up here at Low Entropy!

Unless

Anna Bernsteiner (she/her/hers), Low Entropy Volunteer Writer

 

Yesterday I didn’t get out of my bed at all.

I stared at the ceiling.

And it looked like I was still, doing nothing 

When actually there were thousands of conversations and words 

Floating through my mind

so I was paralyzed and had to listen to them scream.

 

Time felt worthless and so the days passed

And another one and another one and many more after. 

And this would have gone on for eternity 

Sadness and depression can eat you alive 

 

Unless . . .

There is something in you that wants to move. 

Unless . . .

There is something that wants to run, dance, laugh

Unless

there is something that will fight 

 

All you need is a beating heart

And a fighting soul

To rebuild your life. 

Nothing can stop you

Not grief, not pain, not depression

 

You are in control of your reality

You can 

You will. 

 

So today I got out of bed in the morning. 

It took me all the strength I had 

But I made it

And so will you. 

 

 

Hi, I’m Anna, I’m a student and I write blogs for Low Entropy. In my free time I like to explore new countries and cultures, try new foods, languages and meet new people, and I try to write interesting articles 🙂

 

Transformation

by Anna Bernsteiner

 

You grow like a sunflower reaching up to the sun in mid-May. 

There is no other way, but forward. 

Slowly, unnoticeable at first. 

You pierce through the dirt.

Air, Sunshine, life. 

Up you go with a goal in mind. 

Shaking off all the darkness and doubts. 

Grow grow grow that’s all you know

 

There are times when it gets dark. 

No light in sight. 

All you want is some daylight 

And yet the sunshine always returns

Giving you strength. 

Even when all the others are far ahead. 

You shine on your own time. 

No rush. 

There is none of you that isn’t enough. 

 

And as you realize that truth

It’s now your time to bloom.

Yellow, orange, brown 

It’s like you are wearing a dashing crown. 

It seems that now 

you don’t need to reach up to the sun.

You don’t hide and run. 

You know, you are the center of your own life.

And finally, 

you bloom like a sunflower that found its light in mid-July